Seven Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
When in the throes of a new relationship, it can be hard to keep a clear and unbiased head. Use this guide to help identify any red flags that may be looming over your relationship.
1.) Lack of communication
Individuals that aren't able to express their thoughts and feelings are difficult to be in a healthy relationship with. Relationships require openness and honesty, especially when it comes to conflict resolution. You don’t want to be left hanging at every turn and left to deal with things on your own. If they’re giving you the silent treatment often, it might be a sign they aren’t the best communicators.
2.) Your friends and family don't like your significant other
Usually, your inner circle will have your best interest at heart. The people you’ve spent the most time with will know you well and have a good read on if a significant other is a good match for you. If only a few people have negative feelings towards your significant other, it may not be worth paying attention to. But if EVERYONE close to you unanimously agrees that they aren't a good fit, it is probably something you should take into consideration.
3.) They describe all their exes as “crazy”
Some relationships end badly and it takes a lot of time to heal from them. But if your significant other constantly trashes every previous partner, and is blaming them for everything, take this as a sign to back away from the relationship. It’s clear they still have issues to sort through and they are likely the common denominator.
4.) Lack of trust
Relationships are built on a foundation of trust. To be able to rely on one another, you need to trust each other. While trust can always be built over time, it’s important to be honest with yourselves about whether or not it’s something you can work on. Also note: it is not your job to “teach” someone how to be able to trust again. Let me be abundantly clear - never sign up to do the emotional labor of being somebody’s teacher and/or rehabilitation center from previously burned experiences. It is not worth your mental health.
5.) Abusive behavior
Any form of abuse in a relationship should not be tolerated. Whether it is verbal, emotional, psychological, and *especially* physical. If your partner is being abusive in any form, back away and never look back. If it happens once, it will happen again.
6.) They are incapable of apologizing
Being able to admit fault is crucial for a successful relationship. Both people need to play an active role in making a relationship work, and this includes apologizing. If you feel like you’re the only one apologizing, reevaluate your relationship. It’s highly unlikely you're the only one making mistakes.
7.) They use ultimatums to get their way
If your partner is constantly threatening to end your relationship and holding the fact that they will leave you over your head: Run. Run in the opposite direction. Everyone deserves to feel safe and secure in their relationship. When you have a disagreement, discussion and compromise is the best way to come to a resolution. Look out for phrases like “I will find someone better” or “I will find someone who is willing do X instead”.